Men of Character

Influence of fathers' generational baggage on children


In this article, I share my notes of a teaching by Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo at the 2018 Kephale Men's Conference.

We are at a crossroads, things are changing before our eyes and the world is trying to redefine humanity or what man is. The evil becomes good, the good becomes bad. More and more, we show what we hid in closets, and we tend to hide the things we were proud of before.

Man is defined more and more by what the world says.

When asking the question: What is a man?

Many immediately think of Arnold Schwarzenegger or Denzel Washington. Many people think that if you do not have a large chest, then you are not a man. Many are defined by what society says. But society is confused - confused in clothing, profession and personality.

Society tries to shape our thoughts and give us an image of what man is. But beware : when society defines you, it limits you. It sets boundaries around your identity.

People tend to be defined based on where they live, the car they drive, the brand of their clothing, or their family name. We do not realize that these things are not enough to define a man. The Scriptures give us another standard, showing us that man should not be defined in terms of his physical appearance, his social position, or his material possessions.

Saul said to him: Who are you son of, young man? And David said, I am the son of thy servant Isai, Bethlehemite. (1 Samuel 17:58)

To know who a man is, you have to look to his fathers. Saul's question in 1 Samuel 17 is relevant, because every man inherits the problems and limitations of his fathers. Some of your fights started with your grandfather.

Why do you say this proverb in the land of Israel: The fathers ate green grapes, and the children's teeth were annoyed? (Ezekiel 18: 2)

Testimony of Pastor Ashimolowo

My father was away. He was a soldier ... and addict to gambling. Every weekend, he bet his money on football matches between two English cities. Every Saturday he listened to the results. He lost each time and started again.

Consequences for my family: we never had enough to eat. We did not go to school. I had to finance my studies myself. We never had beautiful clothes. I have no memory of my family at the table for the meal. Anyone could hurt us because my father was never there.

Whose son are you?

As long as you do not break the negative things from your earthly family and embrace the positive realities of your heavenly family in Christ, you will continue to struggle.

To receive Christ is not to receive a religion. In receiving Christ, you have been introduced into the family of God. You became a member of God's family. God has become your Father. You have been adopted into His family because of this, the failures, weaknesses and limitations of your father's house no longer have to restrain you. You are now called to experience freedom in all areas of your life: physically, emotionally, financially ...

Whose son are you?

One day someone will ask this question to your son? What will he say about you?

My father lived under the yoke of his own father's weaknesses. My grandfather was very poor, so poor that he gave 2 of his sons as slaves to secure a loan. The person had to keep the slaves who worked for her, until the money was refunded. That's the type of grandfather I had and that's the kind of spirit that was based on my father. But when I was born again, I decided not to repeat the mistakes, the weaknesses, the shame and the embarrassment of my fathers.

I come from a city in Nigeria where families live in groups or concessions. In my grandfather's compound, he never built anything. Only one of his sons struggled to build a house. One on the 7 threads. My dad also tried to build, but he did it wrong. He started by buying the canvases for the roof. Finally he sold the sheets. But I decided not to repeat that.

My father was never home. But I decided to be present for my children, at the cost of many sacrifices. I dropped out of a Master program because of my sons. I studied at home because of my sons. I was a pastor, raising my sons, in the big city of London. I was there for them. I accompanied them to school, and to the park myself. I took them to the circus.

Small, there was never anything to eat at home.But I decided that my children would have more than enough.

Torn pants were always worn, but I decided that my children would dress well.

When I was a child, we were still living in places in the city where nobody wanted to live. I built my first home, when I was single, at 27 years old. I bought my first home in UK when my kids were 5 and 3 years old. They never grew up in an atmosphere they would not be proud of. I made sure that my sons could do the master that I could not do. At their wedding, I offered them a home to everyone.

You are not alone in having a difficult life. But it's possible to get by.

Let every negative chain that connects you to your father's house be broken in the name of Jesus. Be released today. Walk in the freedom of Christ and in the blessing of the Lord.



I really liked this testimony that shows the influence on children, family baggage, generational baggage that is brought with you in the marriage. Today Pastor Ashimolowo is a blessed man financially, at ease and his testimony shows thatwe can start badly and finish well; and that it is possible to break the limitations of fathers.

I pray that you are among those who break these limitations to unfold to you according to the potential that God has placed in you, in the name of Jesus.